Separation That Hurts

Recently some people have begun to feel the absence of friends and to begin to ponder why friends cease to contact each other after graduation. I think I have talked about this earlier but I guess it is inevitable such feeling would arise when one pines for a joy long lost and sadly gone.

It is my observation that only people who have travelled far to somewhere, alone, that feels this kind of hollowness. Some people fill the void by actively participating lots of events to ensure life is being lived with the maximum meaning possible while some decides to finally settle down but couldn't shake off the feeling that somewhere deep in your heart you know you are entirely alone in a foreign place with not a single familiar material or living beings surrounding you. Being alone in an alien place could be really intimidatingly lonely, especially when you feel lost, have no one to care upon or talk to, and such atmosphere is in nature oppressive and daunting.

But it has an advantage - it means you are by force, or by consent, out of your comfort zone and attempting to establish a new life in a new area. It is my belief that forcing oneself to leave its comfort zone, with no possible or easy routes to return, is the best way to gain a new experience, to be independent and to grow up. Because it is the first lesson of being thrown with one experience you despise but have to reluctantly undertake, and life's full of such events.

There are things in lives that suck but nonetheless we have to face and deal and ultimately solve. We have to at times begin to realise that we have to face things we do not wish or are not brave enough to face, and it's not because life sucks, but it's because we are adults, and we have responsibilities.

Adults like our parents lost their youth for reasons. They weren't born to this world old like we thought when we were still young and naive. It's time we begin to understand why.